I’m just not that into you…
It continues to amuse me how much some people push to get a date these days. I’m not blowing my own horn here by the way, although it may sound like it. I’ve just got to the point where I’m beginning to re-think the way I approach [or not approach] boys.
For me, if someone blows me off once, I’m pretty much out of there unless they try hard to get another date. For me, a first date postpone is pretty much a first date cancel. Unless of course there is a DAMN good excuse to miss the opportunity to have my company… and I’m talking like, there’s a death in the family. Being simply “hung-over” does NOT qualify. Sorry.
There’s been one guy who I’ve been blowing off for months [keep your minds out of the gutter people!], mainly cause I’m just not really that interested. CLEARLY – or else I would have gone to the effort to see him.
… and I DO make an effort if I want to. If I want to see someone I actually like, I will do whatever I can to make time for a half hour beer after work. Even if it does turn into an hour… or an hour and a half :p
But some people just DON’T get the point. This morning I woke up to a message from the guy who thought it was ok to remove a condom during sex and not tell me… Is he fucking KIDDING ME?! What makes him think I’m ever going to want to see him again?!
But does persistence pay off? It’s something that I’ve always thought about. And when does persistence turn into annoyance. The line could be thinner than we think. I think it’s important to not over think this though, as over thinking every situation when dating can be very dangerous. Just ride the wave and enjoy it – you never know where it will take you.
Just do yourself a favour and use your gut instinct.
Oh, and if someone ignores your messages, it’s probably for a reason.
January 25, 2010 at 1:04 am
Some people just don’t get the message, I’ve had people like that too, I have found that I get more blunt as time goes on, in the end they definitely get the idea I don’t want to meet up with them! Persistence can pay off and you get the date, but if you really have to push that hard to get them to agree then they really aren’t that interested and the relationship won’t last, at least none of mine did in that situation.
Now I’m like you, I try once then if you’re not interested I’m not interested in chasing you as I have better stuff to do with my time.
J
January 25, 2010 at 1:59 am
I disagree – My last bf only got me through persistence. I wasn’t really into him all that much but he kept asking me to catch up and stuff and eventually I realised he was an awesome guy and we started going out… the asshole ended up breaking up with me and breaking my heart! lol – Irony much?
February 1, 2010 at 8:03 am
I think it depends what sort of persistence it is. As in, if the person is letting you persist, and isnt ignoring you, thats a pretty good sign, but if they are ignoring you, or trying to give you the shove, then its a pretty good sign that youre getting annoying.